How many times have your push down your wants and needs to accommodate for others. Or the times you wanted to speak up, but stifled and kept quiet to keep the peace. In the past, maybe you were dismissed, demeaned or ostracized for speaking out. This may have compelled you to restrain and question your voice.
It’s challenging standing up for yourself and voicing what’s important to you. For most, the fear is based on being rejected, laughed at, or viewed negatively. However, not speaking up moves you into a victim role. You feel your destiny and happiness is in another’s hands. You are fully responsible for your life and everything that is happening in it.
Your needs and inner desires are important. If you don’t use your voice over the small things in life you will end up in life with lots of small compromises of yourself that will end up being big ones. After a decade, you will forget who you are and what is truly important to you. Standing up for yourself is vital for you. Understanding that you are not responsible for how others feel about your choices. It’s not about being selfish or defiant. It’s about your living from your truth.
Our own unworthiness causes us to settle for far less than what we deserve. It rears it’s ugly head in happiness, love life, success, finances and many other areas. We must realize that our existence on this planet is divine. We are here to fulfill a specific purpose and life has a deeper meaning. Truly believing you are worthy of abundance, love, joy and peace. This is a process of unraveling of years of criticism, judgment, and limiting beliefs.
Being assertive, setting boundaries and saying, no is the key to standing up for yourself. It allows your to express your needs and wants in a way that is honoring to you and others. It requires you be honest and straightforward about your feelings and thoughts. It’s helpful to use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. “You” statements leaves you in the blame game. Each time you exercise this muscle it will become stronger and more effortless.
In order for others to accept us, we must first accept ourselves fully. We teach people how to treat us. Overtime you courageously speak up for yourself, you are making you a priority. You are reclaiming your right to be respected, valued and heard.You are on this planet for a limited amount of time- how do you choose to live your life? In fear or truth? As you courageously speak your truth, you allow others to stand up and speak theirs.
Own your worth. Shout your truth. Claim your power. You deserve it.